By Jimmy Warden
“Of course, you feel that way,” Pascal Auclair said.
Auclair is a meditation teacher and practicing Buddhist, whom I listened to on the Ten Percent Happier Podcast hosted by Dan Harris.
Harris and Auclair had a deep discussion about the judging mind.
The judging mind is a subcategory of the thinking mind. Noted by its name, it makes judgments about our life, positive and negative.
Everyone faces the challenge of negative judgments. Especially, when we judge ourselves.
“I should’ve taken another job.”
“I’m failing in life.”
“I can’t escape these negative thoughts.”
Auclair’s response to all that?
“Of course, you feel that way.”
When life hits us like a ton of bricks, it’s normal for our minds to think negatively.
It shows we care. It shows we want the best for ourselves and others.
I’ve had a recurring negative thought for a while now.
“I don’t know how much longer I can be a teacher.”
Why have I said that? Because I don’t want to experience chronic stress for 10 out of 12 months of the year. I know it’s not healthy for my mind and body.
So I used Auclair’s strategy and said: of course, you feel that way.
Then, something incredible happened.
My negative thoughts and feelings evaporated. I was at peace with myself and the present moment.
I realized, nothing is wrong with having those thoughts.
Think about the last negative thought you had. Let it simmer in the mind and body. Then, I want you to drop that phrase to yourself. Report back how you feel.
This essay serves as a reminder to all those with a pattern of negative thinking. I hope Pascal’s phrase will help you be at ease with your judging mind.
Because at the end of the day, regarding your mind…
Nothing is wrong.