By Jimmy Warden
We are our own worst critics. We judge ourselves to no end. It is constant. Daily. Hourly. By the minute. Asking questions like: “Why did I do that?” and “why isn’t anything going my way?” These are frustrating questions to ask, but if that’s all that we do with every decision we make, we’ll never be satisfied with any of our decisions.
We are the judge, the jury, and the executioner of our own minds and well-being. The negative thought loops are the judge of our past decisions, other voices in our heads are the jury that decides how those decisions have impacted us, and the executioner is the voice that crucifies us when the impact is negative.
When we’re doing this, over and over again in our heads, it becomes exhausting. It leads to low levels of confidence and self-esteem. It makes it hard to move forward each day because of the constant need to analyze each decision and its effects.
Instead, we should just move forward, regardless of the weight of the decision and its outcome. The main reason being is that we only knew what we knew at the time. We most likely felt that it was the best decision we could’ve made at that moment. Sure we may have regrets afterwards, but regret only comes when we have hindsight. And as they say, hindsight is always 20/20.
So try to be a bit gentler with yourself. There isn’t a need to be a harsh judge, a convinced jury, or a harsh executioner. Your mind and well-being with thank you if you pull back.