By Jimmy Warden
After waffling back and forth with the idea when I first started writing posts for this blog, I have decided it is time to dedicate a post to why I use the pronoun we in my posts.
I use the pronoun we because it implies that I am also working on applying the ideas that I’m writing about and podcasting about. I don’t want any of my readers or listeners to think for one minute that I am a superhuman that is not working through the lessons that I’m writing about or speaking about. I am constantly a work in progress, I have not nearly perfected anything that I speak about, but I am trying to do my best each day to do them a little bit better.
Another reason that I use we is to show that I strive not to be a theorist. For the past several years, I have been meditating on the idea of what makes a person a true master, and without application, I don’t believe someone can be a true master. Therefore, someone can be incredibly intelligent and profess on damn near any topic under the sun, but if they do not actually practice those ideas they preach about, I don’t think they’re as credible as someone who actually does practice what they’re speaking so passionately about.
I want to lay this out using a couple of examples in my own life. The first example I want to talk about is meditation.
I started meditating in the spring of 2018 as a way to find some clarity amidst my daily stress and anxiety that I had been experiencing. I was going through a bit of a rough patch at the ripe age of 24, not knowing what I truly wanted to do with my life. I vividly recall breaking down and crying one night trying to explain this narrative to my roomates at the time, Ian and Gretchen Thomas. Through the tears streaming down my face, I was explaining to them that I was enjoying teaching and coaching, but I had this underlying feeling, an intuition, that there was something else I should be doing. At the time, I couldn’t really explain it, so I decided to start trying meditation in order to clear my mind a bit from these existential questions of life that were haunting me at the time
When I first started meditating, it was very challenging for me to sit still and be quiet for even a short amount of time. Meditation exercises are often very simple, but that does not mean they are easy. They often ask that the meditator do simple tasks of focusing their attention on different elements of their immediate environment, in the present moment. From their breath, to sounds, to the weight of gravity pressing on their limbs, to moods or sensations, and feelings of emotion. Then, it can progress to other tasks like visualization, and even introspective questioning.
I’ve experimented with every part of what I just described, but by no means have I mastered any of these techniques, and I’ve logged over 200 hours of meditation, but I am not nearly a master at meditation right now. I don’t feel like it would be appropriate to label myself as such. I still need practice. I’d like to think of myself as a practitioner in the making because I’m still working on applying the skills that I’ve learned through meditation.
Another example is with nutrition. I did a post awhile back about how to track your macronutrients, which is one of many ways a person can start to get healthier. However, I have struggled over the last several years to find an eating style that works for me because I’ve lacked commitment to a plan. I’ve had the most success tracking macros, but I’ve never it for more than several weeks at a time. I also don’t always track every single thing I eat or weigh every single thing that I eat when I’m tracking. I’ve tried to do keto, but for me, that doesn’t always last very long because I love carbs. I love my protein, but I don’t know if I could really follow through with being solely a carnivore; nor could I be a vegan because I love eating meat. Even though these are all ways that other people have found success, I’ve never sustained success with one of these ways of eating because of my infatuation with a variety of foods. However, by trying a variety of methods, I’ve learned a lot in the process.
I wouldn’t necessarily call myself an expert yet in the domains of meditation or nutrition, but I am most definitely working towards becoming the best practitioner that I can be. The main separator being that I am making the concerted effort to work through and learn from my mistakes. With this knowledge, I try to convey what I do know about these topics through my writing. Not only that, but I’ve also tried to think a lot about what success looks like in my eyes. Success can be such an ambiguous term because everyone’s definition of it is different. My version of success might not be your version of success. This is another reason why I use we in my blog posts and podcasts.
We all live such different lives with such different circumstances that there is never a true, concrete version of success. Some people may disagree with me here, and that’s fine, but success looks different to different people because of context. More specifically, the context of what they’re trying to apply in their lives and how they’re trying to apply it. A successful meditation or a successful eating plan will be different based on the goals of each individual. The same could be said for anything else that we’re trying to do with our lives. Just know that we’re all in this life together. There is only way to truly come together, and that is to support one another in our respective individual growth plans. If we can all grow individually, we will all be able to grow collectively, and the world will be a much better place for it.